I am at that point.

[MM78]

At the risk of having my head taken off, I want to challenge you to rethink the statement that you have done all that you could.

Have you tried to back off of her? Have you stopped pursuing her and gotten your own life? I am in the same spot as you, though my H just told me he does want to try on Sunday - he is still contacting the OW and I don't feel he's really on board yet. But I understand having the sword over your head feeling like someone else is about to determine if your family will stay intact or not.

But you have the power to work on you and make you happy. You can focus on the person you want to be for your next relationship - either a new one with her, or a new one with another person.

For me I can think back (a looooonng) time ago to a boyfriend that was more in love with me than I was with him, and I remember any of his whining or his statements of how much he cared to me at the time were a turnoff because I didn't know where I stood. Had he detached a little and been a stronger independent person, not just a lump that wanted to attach himself to me, I think I would have felt an immediate pull toward him rather than feeling like he annoyed me. Ultimately I ended things because all he was to me was an annoyance. I try to remember that but in MY situation my DH is what I was, and I am who that old boyfriend was. I will not be him. I will be my own person, I will be the best parent I can and the strongest person I can.

Have you tried to do any 180s? Detach from her? GAL? Stop pressuring her and focus on you?

If you have and you felt you got no where, I am sorry. I am truly posting to try to help and make you think from a different angle. I know it hurts to be where you are, I do know.