Hey K, it's a roller coaster so you just have to ride it out. I hear you on the 'out of sight, out of mind' thing. It makes you want to somehow get this mess over with like yesterday so you can be free. I do anyway...I know I'll be ok when I don't have to get the letters from the Ls or deal with her on all the 'open' issues.
Anniversaries are tough- or any 'firsts' for that matter but it's important you do something fun so next year you can look back and go 'hell that wasn't all that bad! I had fun!'. So stay dark tomorrow COMPLETELY! and enjoy the day. Smart move on the IC appt and it sounds like you will have fun with your family and friends!
Keep you chin up!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
