Another long term relationship bombed

[gr8 day 2B alive]

She is trying to reach out to me because she does no longer understand my state of mind. That's why she is confused.

This is mind reading and is very dangerous.

In the past when emotional outbursts like the recent one happened, I reacted to them. I would not speak for days. I got angry and tried to defend myself or question her motives. I clanged onto her words and repeated them back to her questioning the validity of her statements.

Now I only said "I'm sorry for how you feel." When it was over, it was over. No reaction, no anger - like it never even happened.

It is amazing how that works.

Coach has some good thoughts about that.
Asking:
open-ended question to talk work best.

How can I support you with ....

Make her feel you want to understand her.


I don't think you should stay overnight.
IMO

We have always had the best time when vacationing

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not going gives her a chance to miss those fun times.