I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Ok so this is kind of how the conversation went:

+I was hoping to keep the conversation light and flowing and still address the issue as to why I didn't call him and he didn't call me. It seems that on the phone (these last few times) he is more serious and not too playful. However, when I saw him last, he was totally playful (in person). What I am saying was that I was hoping for a playful conversation but it felt kind of akward, instead! (!) He wasn't in a talkative mood.
I REALLY hate talking on the phone when the other person doesn't want to talk. If I don't want to talk, I say "well, sorry, but I am kind of tired. Can we talk later?" or something.


+Apparently he didn't call me because he thought he offended me when he didn't hear from me; he expected I would call him next (guess he takes turns?) but I didn't press him on it. We aren't "in a relationship," so why bother? (a freedom of the fling thing)

+he appreciated that I was giving him space when I thought he was talking to his exG.

+the reason why he hasn't met with his exG is because they aren't supposed to talk until 12 anger management classes have been completed...she is to contact him. He has heard through her family that she has one more to complete, so he should be hearing from her soon. He still has no clue as to whether they will reconcile at this point until he talks to her to see if she is willing to work on her problems.

(I could NEVER EVER EVER live with someone who is volatile and angry and wants to argue all the time....and he could never live with someone who cheated on him! to each his own...lol?)

+I asked that he please just text or call me to let me know what happens with her (if he talks to her) because regardless of whether we dated or slept together, I still am curious to know the outcome! He said he would.


+and I FORGOT to bring up the ring! But I truly have NO qualms now about contacting him via text or phone now. In fact, I could give a hoot about the rules of who calls who at this point! So, I am going to the beach here in a couple days and don't need my ring. Sometime between now and Sunday I will send him a text. At that point, I will be able to tell if we will see each other (one last time?) or not but I will just directly ask for the ring back. He doesn't have his kids next week so he has more time.

Ok I tell you guys way too much. I am CHOOSING to fling or not to fling but I am wincing from what I suspect will be 2x4s coming my way! I have my riot gear on...