Anybody out there who can talk a minute?

[LRT Land]

hi return - My H has some issues too but ultimately he was the one who retained a lawyer to send me a letter. Thankfully, he didn't file. We'd been living separate lives in one sense - definitely separate bedrooms - for a long time. After we moved, he felt a restriction of his freedom and ran to an attorney after an argument. For me it was a wake up call that I wasn't ready to give up on the M. I have been told my H has narcissistic and borderline traits - no disorder. I also think we were both mildly depressed due to the lousy R.

Definitely read DR or DB. The quotes threads on here are very helpful and lots of kind people willing to share their wisdom.

After using DR in my situation, my H has now become the H I wanted. The lawyer is still out there and other issues that will need to be dealt with somehow, and I still don't know where it will land. I thought I wanted out for a long time but I now realize it was because we had both checked out and were very detached. M is something you need to tend every day.

Since I've been using DR my H has had some squirrley moments, but they have been few and far between and short-lived.

Write more about your situation so others can share their insights.