[/quote] I'm finding that (for me anyway) this is like a "post independance syndrome" if you will....Don't know if that makes any sense.
Makes complete sense to me, actually. I think we often can forget that any change - even good change - is stressful and requires time and adjustment. Treat yourself well, be patient with yourself and forgive yourself the flubs. That's all you can do.
OH! PS - I didn't actually physically leave our M. My brain did, but my body didn't follow. So I'm not sure it applies to me, but I'm so glad you're processing it and seeing what's going on for you. It does sound frustrating!!
And now, I'm sorry - I need to switch gears and get this out while I'm thinking about it. As I've sat and wallowed for the last few days I've seen a few things that have been happening over the last weeks that I think are causing my mood. Old patterns again. Not good. I seem to have (yet again) to get into this 'fog' of accommodating, not thinking about what I want, not GAL, so scared to rock the boat again after we connected during our holidays.
And then I wake up and realize - he hasn't initiated anything intimate for 6 weeks; he's been completely gone/off doing his 'thing' last two weekends in a row.... and I'm beginning to pull away again. If I'm going be alone, I might as well 'be alone'. Oh I wish my IC would come back from her holidays.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
