A new beginning to an end

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He called me last night to tell me I left my ring there (a little silver one) and that he was setting up his new king-sized bed and couldn't wait to sleep in it. I asked when he bought it and he said "2 months ago, it was just delivered."

It hasn't been 2 months since he took me on our Caribbean trip. That means it was right after he cancelled our MC and told me had his green card and that he slept with club girl. Which means... he never had any intention of working stuff out with me, IMO.

Then he told me (hold on to your horses, folks and sit down for this one) that I could move in "after the fact." "After the fact of what?" I asked. "After we get a D because then there won't be anything holding us together anymore."

Yes. He said that.

Meaning, since we won't be M'ed and if we stay together it's because we really want to, not because of "piece of paper." My husband is referring to our M as a "piece of paper."

Sweet!

So we're D'ing because marriage is too much of a responsibility per his words and I told him this...

People don't get divorces to work on their R.

That was met with silence.

He said I only want $ from him, that there's no way he's giving me any (but it's fair for me to sign the house over to him? We went back and forth, nothing accomplished, he said he LOVES me and CARES about me and I said, "Then why are you DIVORCING me?"

Even if I'm to believe all the BS he's telling you (which I don't for a sec) are you telling me that someone like him could be trusted that he's divorcing you so you can be a happy couple together? I don't think even Hollywood could come up with this brilliant plot: "I love you darling, let's get a divorce!" WHAT???

Decline his invitations, get your own life. He's no longer entitled to see your emotions or hear how you feel about anything- you're a brick wall from now on.

Yes. It's very "Hollywood" isn't it? Almost laughable. I need to GAL.

Sol - why did you even go over there? .

I know. I know. You remind me of my mom when you said that. But you are RIGHT, CG!

My H asked me to meet him at a restaurant (like a fool I did) and in the middle of a crowded restaurant he literally picked me apart from top to bottom and inside and out and told me in EVERY single way how much better the OW was than me... .

Ugh. I can't even imagine. What a super douchebag. Didn't you sy once that the OW won't allow him to speak your name or she gets upset?

People don't get divorces to work on their R. They get divorces so their finances are no longer an issue, so they can feel like they are the "good guy" and so they can bed whomever strikes their fancy without *feeling* like a cheat. .

Yes, this is true. People get D'ed cause they don't want to be with their spouse anymore. My stbx says he's not seeing anyone at all but who really knows.

[quote=Golfgirl1]Time to go dark and plan your strategy. Have no contact with him, do it all through your atty.

It's over/quote]

Ah yes, going dark.

Divorce is the ultimate rejection, isn't it? It's like, "Let's get married but until one of us doesn't want to do it anymore."

I reallllllllly need to get to the gym an dout of this rut. I am 29 and watching all my friends marry, have kids and here I am... "all by myselllllf" like that 80s song. I can do this though. Still can't believe I spent so much time with a man who promised me the world and told me there was only me and how he wanted to make a life with me only to find him D'ing me.

YUCK.