Wow, for a guy on no sleep you can still "poke me in the eye" without even grazing my nose.

Originally Posted By: Steady

Sometimes I like feeling so tired because the ego drops low and so does our resistance. I find peace there. When I have no energy to think or do I find myself at peace.

Surrendering is to move over to the winning side. (It's completely different than fatalism)


Thank you. Feeling the same this morning. Too tired to fight. Strangely calm. Is it common or required (like a stage) to grow through fatalism first? Just curious.

Originally Posted By: Steady

The river represents all the things you can't control. It's the flow of life.
How do you want to navigate this river you are on? You can bash into the rocks, moan and complain you don't like the river, try to paddle upstream (definitely not recommended), or you can move around and see the things you want to see, stay away from the rocks, make the best of what you have.


Nice reframe. I understand the paddling now. I think the bold above is DETACHMENT. I've been spending too much energy fighting the current. Trying to get back to that "campsite" we just passed. But I should be looking downriver for another spot. And all my attention has been focused "inside' the boat. Need to look at the scenery a bit while still keeping my eyes out for hazards and havens. (Oooh, how poetic and flowery. I feel like having an Arbor Mist...at 6:30 am?)

And that will get me to the below VVVVVVV
Originally Posted By: Steady

I didn't do 'this' any longer than I needed to, because my position relative to 'this' changed. My sitch is mostly the same, but I am very different. You will be too.


And THIS (VVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVV), my friend, is the best perspective changing reframe I have seen in a long time.
Originally Posted By: Steady

.....going down cheeseless tunnels over and over; sitting in a pity pot and feeling sorry for yourself; doing nothing to improve yourself and your life; pining away for someone who isn't interested in being with you right now; mental masturbation; running what-if scenarios over and over; staring at the past for any other reason than identifying what you need to work on; renting space in your head to other people; projecting into the future; ignoring the present...


Fruitless paddling, indeed.

Thanks, Steady.
Really needed that.
Fact is I just sent your definition to my Berry so I have it handy in the future. Ready2Change should be putting that on "DB Quotes III"

And now that the paddling is redefined, and it's not simply flailing and splashing, I can see how it is possible to continue on for a while longer. Quite a while longer.

How in God's name am I going to get Cdn beer to New York?