I'm convinced she's bipolar. No way around that. She goes from almost HATING me at 5:00pm and calling me "Dad" to saying, "Oh darling, thanks for the icecream, why are you so sweet to me (smile)" only 5 hours later.
Because she was wrong and you apologized then came bearing gifts.
How did Petruchio say it:
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Say that she rail, why then I'll tell her plain She sings as sweetly as a nightingale. Say that she frown, I'll say that she looks as clear As morning roses newly washed with dew. Say she be mute and will not speak a word, Then I'll commend her volubility And say she uttereth piercing eloquence.
Mick Jagger sang, "Under my thumb." How did you answer her "sweetness" question?
"Because it is easier to label a repeat adulteress as bipolar then to face the reality that she is a repeat adulteress and ice cream will cool things off" or maybe "because I want to make things work out and gifts will show you how much I love you and wrong I was" ?
Being called "Darling" and "Baby" proved what? That you are her puppet? Sir, there is a method to turning this around. Hanging on a string is not it.
What purpose would "letting her go" serve?
It will prove to her that you will not "tolerate this crap behavior." Obviously, she didnt believe you when you said that and you wrote you "let it drop" so obviously you didn't mean it.
It will force her to realize you are her husband not her father and that there is a different level of respect and behavior she needs to have for you. Hiding boy friends and testing your boundaries is something a daughter does. Not a wife.
It will make her realize you are not automatically hers by default to use and abuse and puppeteer. When she lied to you about her mother dying and having cancer and you didnt walk away from that nonsense you set precedence that she can do and say what she wants and you will let it go. Look how that got out of hand?
It will make her take notice that you do hold your wedding vows close to your integrity. What did you say anyhow? What did she say? Anything about not lyin' nor cheatin' or drinkin' with other men?
As brutal as this sounds John, there is a reason I am writing this to you. The first one, she said "I love you" too. The second one, she met up with. The third one, she met on some video chat program where people flash their goods at eachother. The fourth one, you say, "Don't know or care how many" about. You might want to start caring. The next one might be the right man for her. And where will that leave you?
It will give you some time to start thinking about yourself as an individual that has self-respect, and confidence, and swagger to lead.
I don't think you have it in you to be the "WAS" not from what and the way you write at least. But it is a good tought. You can read, on this site, how well it works to turn lousy spouse around.
