Fullmoon, thanks for stopping by again. Hope you are doing OK, though it sounds like we share the same guilt complex. As my counselor says, we were handed a sh!t sandwich. We don't have to keep chomping on it!
I think that means trying not to let the sitch and our doubts about whoulda-coulda-shoulda eat us alive. If ONLY I followed my own advice.
You are right about us knowing inside we wanted our marriages to work and that we tried.
Seems to me the essence of DBing is to not work hard, but work smart.
There's a lot of talk about having a plan/goal and then thinking and acting smart in order to get there, and not let emotions get in the way.
I think that's about the most challenging task anyone in crisis could ever face.
Anyway, rambling....
G, thanks for the hope, and I don't know if H is more upset about leaving the whole sitch as it were, or leaving his baby. I am not sure I figure in all this.. But time will tell.
Interesting you say I should drop of communication at some point. I think my next challenge once he is on that plane and gone, is how I am going to manage communication with him?
Will I wait for him to contact me?
Will I initiate contact down the track? If so, will I limit it only to answering his questions about the baby and finances etc, will I talk about me?
