I am by no means an expert and I am going through my own difficulties, but it seems to me that at some point she needs to realize what divorced life is like. I don't think you shoud be doing all of the work and the relationship (as it is) should be fair. My suggestion (and it worked for me) is to spilt the chores like if you cook - she does the dishes. Don't clean -let the house become a mess. She will figure that out soon. I have a marraige in trouble and I realized that I was doing all of house work and neglecting myself and family. I have reconnected with my kids, lost a lot of weight, and stopped doing stuff. I came home last week and she fixed dinner. She weeded the flower beds and even cleaned the upstairs portion of the house. That hasn't happened in a long time.
