Well I kinda stole that analogy from Puppy or someone else on here.. it's a bit 'be the shining beacon'...

Yes, I can see the you-leading/him-following dynamic may not be the most appealing for you. I assume you want an equal, a partner?

Maybe we can't expect people to bring the same thing/s to the relationship. But you need to be able to respect him in order to love him.

Let's hope, in a couple of week's time, with no pressure from you, he comes around.

Keep being upbeat and creating a good, warm home for you and bub.