Hi Return10, Is this the first time you have posted? If so, I am sorry you are here but I hope some of us can help you with your situation. We probably need more detail in order to help, though. How old are you and your husband, how many children etc, how long have you been married? Your husband sounds like a handful. Is he officially depressed? Is your marriage in trouble? Do you want to save it? Taking care of yourself is the first thing you will need to do if you want to save your marriage. Tell us more.