Surviving the Big D STINKS!

[ClingingToHope]

Boy, that's a toughy. If STBXW came over one night, lonely, and gave me the look ... I would jump her.

In fact, I miss the physical relationship way more than STBXW personally.

It'll always be that way until there's someone else.

I was interested in the XMIL stuff. I didn't treat mine very nicely over the years -- she is a difficult person to like at times. But I realized, way too late, that I married STBXW, which means I married her family and for all their faults I had to love them unconditionally.

So I apologized to MIL last June or July and it was genuine and I even broke down.

That day she told me she was stepping back and not getting involved because that's what her mom did when MIL was struggling with FIL.

Well since, I'm pretty sure she's helping finance the divorce and helping STBXW out financially. She's also stepping in as babysitter so STBXW can keep up with her job.

So she's enabling STBXW to destroy the family.

Really, I shouldn't be surprised. MIL has spent more than $30k on younger SIL, paying off her credit card debt, giving her a car and spending money even though she hasn't had a job in five years and has gotten two DUIs.

So I'm torn again on MIL. I know it's flesh and blood, but I hoped she'd stand up and say "divorce him but don't look to me for help."

Life is about consequences. SIL has drained MIL to the point she'll have to work several more years -- she's 62. STBXW now is helping run through what's left even faster.