Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

The sooner you reject her the sooner she is going to have to grow up and realize if she loves you and can treat you decently as a wife, or go, find who she is, and grow up.

- She says, "I know you are a good man. I just don't know if you're the right man for me."

She said that while the EA was still going on in the beginning after bomb day, if that makes sense. Hasn't said that since.

Bomb day was Father's Day. That was only a few weeks ago. And still there are secrets and passwords and you don't really know who she is talking to. And it doesn't read like she is even a bit remorseful. And you can't have sex with her even though you are shaving her. Now you are "Dad" ?

There is a great big world out there. John. If she is out there exploring it. You really should too. You might realize who you are. Who you are becoming and why getting out of a bad situation like this quickly is better in the long run for you.



Gucci and Rob have some great speeches. I am more for saying little and making riddles.
Find your "jealousy button" or better yet find yourself someone that thinks you are the right man for them.
Enjoy their company for a while.
It will open both yours and her's eyes.

Steve, I've always admired your brutal honesty, and I continue to welcome it.

Truth be told, you may be right. There might be another person out there that treats me better and is right for me, enjoys being my wife, appreciates all the little things I do, and everything is. I can sit here and fantasize about that all day, but only true character is built in the face of extreme challenges. I love my wife, and I love my son, and be damned if I'm going to put my own potential or even probable wants and needs above my son's. Regardless of our situation and past, we have the ability to make this work, and I'm not going to run from that.

Sure, rejecting her might be the best thing for me right now. I see that. It would probably be the easiest mentally as well... just go and detach, shut down, and go on with my life. It's a probability that I'd end up being the WAS myself if I did that. Sure, I could do that. But would that serve my family's purpose? Would that serve my wedding vows that I hold close to my integrity? Probably not.

She is remourseful in some ways. But, she is also resentful. Those two combinations don't work I think. I agree, she should be more remourseful and forthcoming with her feelings, but she's not. I can't change that. On that same vein, I'm confident at this point she isn't going behind my back to see or talk to OM. The last time she talked to OM was nearly 6 weeks ago.

I'm not defending her, but I'm trying to understand her. I'm trying to LISTEN for once in my life.

Tonight she has been calling me "darling" and "baby" and being sweet to me.

I'm convinced she's bipolar. No way around that. She goes from almost HATING me at 5:00pm and calling me "Dad" to saying, "Oh darling, thanks for the icecream, why are you so sweet to me (smile)" only 5 hours later.