Taking MIL to airport. She spent the afternoon here with bub. She tells me that what he did is "too much", to take it day by day, don't give up hope. He needs help, he needs to lie in the bed he had made.
I said I cannot wait. I am afraid to hate him once he takes that plane, for robbing me of the future we planned and my hope.
Luckily I am seeing my IC tomorrow. I'll give you guys a break!!! :-)
But I am so sad, I miss him so much, I hate the present reality and my life. "Home" for me was with him. Now I am exposed, alone. How did my best friend in the world do this to me???
I've been asking myself that for some time, Piano. I think back to the good times - our first kiss, when he asked me to marry him, our wedding - and wonder where in the world that man went. It's sad, it's painful, and like having a baby, this experience makes you see life in a completely different way. Things will never be the same again.
I'm SO sorry that you have to go through this. He's being a complete idiot and he knows it, which is why he doesn't want to say goodbye to you. Shame and guilt, through and through. But he has to learn this lesson on his own.
Hang tough, Piano. You can do this! Thank goodness your parents are there to help.
you are a far better person then i am. like newmama, i will have to see h be with another woman, my kids see him kiss her sleep in the same bed, etc. d is 3 and son is 6 months.
i can't do it, i've done it with my first x husband and daughter who is now 18.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Taking MIL to airport. She tells me that what he did is "too much", to take it day by day, don't give up hope. He needs help, he needs to lie in the bed he had made.
She's right. It was hard enought for HER to go through it with his father. She must be HORRIFIED to see it all over again. Be careful what you teach your children, eh?
If she lives near him in Europe, perhaps she can provide him with a few guilt jabs every now and again...
They say every time we grieve for someone (from "Getting Past Your Break up") it will hurt a little less.
Thank God you are going to your IC! I hope she helps you! This just sucks.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
wife, I am so sorry you are going through so much pain right now. I am very distressed and vulnerable myself and I won't come to see (bub) on Wednesday before I go. I feel fragile and I can't cope with another outburst of grief. Please don't be mad at me, and more importantly don't blame yourself for this. Is is not your fault, it is just the situation that is too difficult right now for both of us, especially just days before I go. I hear your questions and your need for answers. I will write to you from (country) in the future, and hopefully one day we will be able to discuss what happen to our couple, in peace and calm. I hope also I'll find a job as son as possible so I can rapidly support myself, and support you with (bub). Above all, look after yourself, as I know you are looking after (bub) wonderfully. husband.
wow, I agree with Gatsby! So what was your take, Piano?
And how was your IC appt? (if it isn't too nosy for me to ask!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
You reckon it's good? Isn't he just being a coward, again? And once he's gone, and writes that letter, it will be all one way. no real dialogue. and he will be shacked up with OW who from next week is going to be supporting him and helping him 'get over his grief'.
I mean, thanks for being positive, but I just don't see it...
