When kids are involved, should you point out certain events to your spouse about how the kids are hurting. The wife and I have been split for 9 weeks, shes been back and forth and fianlly friday said to the pastor that if things "changed" the marriage could work and she wanted the family togther, but she is watching her words very carefully and still is not too hopefull. Here lately my 4 and 6 year olds have been asking when mom is coming home over and over ( we split the 50/50) but I see them more because of her hours). Tonight I drop the kids off at her moms (where she lives) and 4 year old got very sad, said he would miss me and asked me repeatly "if I could spend the night", of course it killled me. I want to call and raise hell but of course I didnt, but is it ok to repectfully talk about this situation, with out it looking like Im trying to "use" the kids, becuase Im not!. I just hate to see this and with her recent words about what could happen, I want to say since u know it now, get off your butt and do it so it will not hurt my babies any longer than it needs to, so is that a bad move?
