Thanks for your input. As I mentioned, my IC told me that in life...there are givers...and there are takers.
Givers are usually attracted to takers...for whatever reason. Opposites attrack??!!! I guess the question should have been...
Why are givers attracted to takers?
or
Why am I attracted to takers?
This is what my IC was discussing with me last week. I know the answer is not to stop giving (because that truly who I am at the core)...but how do I stop getting involved with takers?
My IC seems to disagree somewhat...she is convinced that I am attracted to takers...but she believes that I do need to change my 'giving' nature. We are supposed to dive into this more during our next session.
Regarding self respect and when do you feel like you are compromising it for the sake of your M? My IC also believes there are limits. There appears to be a fine between self respect and unconditional love. I still need to work this all out. I believe in unconditional love...but I also believe in having self respect and getting my needs met (although I haven't been successful at this at all). I need to reconcile the two. Just not there yet.
