Mystik, if you refuse to sign a no fault divorce, it will still go through and he'll get to dictate the terms. Contact your L and find out if you'll lose anything of value. For example, will he be able to change the terms of your financial arrangment or change custody. Those things should determine whether you file or not.
I have something else for you to think about. Sometimes God answers our prayers in a way that we didn't not expect. Isn't just possible that He is answering your prayer through this situation? Maybe He's telling you that you are a worthy and honored child of God and you don't deserve to be treated the way your H has been treating you.
