Thank you so much for the response, yes it is different with an emtionally abusive situation. "Putting up with the spew" is not helpful.
Yes, Pearl is very smart. I value her - your, Pearl!- advice. Yes I have read the Bi**h book - time for a reread I suppose.
AS for the new guy, I guess I messed up calling him the next day. The other reason - but still shouldn't have - was that we had discussed going to a show that following thursday with a group - and I wanted to know if I should get him a ticket.
No response. No pursuing since. It's been a week. Still think he might call, DBurt?
Anyhow, I"m doing great not calling him. I know now that I want/deserve to be pursued and I've never fully let that happen with a guy. So whether he does or doesnt, I'm holding out. If he doesn't, someone else eventually will.
Tonight H is actually going to fulfill his requirements to be with S. I txted him that rehearsal is going to be later anyhow, but let me know. He is going to show up. I'm going to keep that boundary and not talk to him. I'm going to leave right away.
This show is a blessing - it dropped right in my lap. I have rehearsals every night which allows me a focus beyond men (ugh) and keeps me busy when H and FIL are around in the evenings.
DUdess, thank you so much for your awesome post - and I'll be sure to catch up on your sitch soon.
