oh and I didn't read all of your post...I, too, am just learning from the discussions and different points of view and am totally 100% comfortable with the discussion. Seriously! Because there are "different strokes for different folks."
I'm sorry to repeat myself but I really am not "aggressive" NORMALLY! I think that is why I posted those silly 10 steps (and I don't follow a formula, lol! It was just an example!)
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004