As has been said, do not initiate any R discussions with your W. If she brings one up listen to what she has to say and validate. Validating does not mean that you're agreeing with her just agreeing that she has the right to feel as she does.
During these conversations do not try and defend yourself, it will do you no good. Say, I'm sorry you feel that way, or I understand why you feel that way. If you try and defend yourself it just will just escalate what she is spewing.
Some of the things said by your W may sting. If there is anything that does, you may want to take a closer look at it as to why it stung. That may be something to work on within yourself for YOU.
The focus of this board is on the LBS's journey. We're all walking along this path with you.
