I just read your thread from newcomers. We say here that confusion = MLC It does sound like she is in a MLC she does sound confused. You need to learn more about MLC. It is not something that YOU can control. The thing to do is to try to outlast your wifes MLC. That is what standing for your marriage is all about. The advice here is a little different than in newcomers.
You need to learn more about detachment. You need to live your life and let your wife live hers. It doesn't sound like there is an OM. This means that you are dealing with MLC depression. She is just low energy MLC. Some of the advice is the same but you don't want to pressure her and I am confused as to whether you are pushing this divorce or not. If you want to get divorced, push it, if not stop. There are no tricks here. You will not trick her out of her crisis. She only has one way to go through it and that is up and over the mountain. There are no shortcuts.
I would not worry about what she is going to do 2 years from now. That is a long time from now and a lot can change. If she wants to move out, you can't stop her.
Try to give her more space that what you have been doing. Let her come to you. Mirror her actions.
Start reading the resources. Keep asking questions.
