Tried that. Tried everything I can think of. Does anyone think it is a good idea if I just go ahaed and file and let him live here until I can afford to support myself and the kids?

That way, at least maybe I can move on and try to find someone else. Or is that a bad idea that won't work? Anyone ever done that?

Then, I think, well, if he doesn't move out, he won't realize what he has done and what he is missing. After eerything, I still have that tiny bit of hope.

Me:36 H:38
Together: 20 years
Married: 16 years
Kids: 13 & 10 yr. old
Discovered affair: 1/10
H denies affair. Refuses to save marraige.
Divorce filed: December 2010