Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Definitely sounds hypocritical. So call her on it. Remember men have BOUNDARIES. You are fighting for RESPECT right now.

I agree that it's hypocritical. We talked about transparency, and she agreed to everything except FB, pwd, until after MC on Wednesday. Well, does that give her the right to go through my phone?

I just know if I confront her on this, she's going to try to twist and turn it on me to make me be the bad guy.

Well well, I hate to eat my own words, but... guess what, she did exactly what I thought she would when I confronted her about my phone.

I asked her nicely, "Did you go through my phone?" She replied that she had. I asked her why she did so, and she said, "Because you went through mine this morning."

If I was even half as smart as I am right now after the fact, I would have stopped the conversation then and there. I didn't touch her phone at all. I was respecting her boundaries. I did not even as much as look at her phone. So of course, dumbly I replied:

"I did not!" she then fired back, "Yes you did, don't lie to me, you went through my phone this morning." I then was on the defensive about going through her phone, and she had totally deflected all of the problems that I orignally went to her with (Hey, you went through my phone W). Instead I'm sitting here defending myself on why I didn't go through her phone.

Anyways, so I'm all defensive. Told her there was no way I didn't go through her phone. She said whatever - I don't believe you. She then said she just went through my phone because I went through hers. I told her that if she was concerned about me breaking her boundaries, she should have talked to me about it, not done the same thing back. She said, "Whatever, it's over, I said sorry."

I almost blew up, but I didn't. I told her then that she shouldn't have done that, because I was respecting her boundaries and she owed me the same. She then replied back with, "Stop scolding me like a child, DAD. I told you I was sorry, I don't scold you when you do something wrong. So let it go."

Finally I said, "I won't tolerate this crap behavior."

"Scolding me again like a child, controlling me...." she replied. I just let it drop.

30 minutes later we had calmed down and I told her that it is possible that I shouldn't have jumped down her throat as much as I did. She said that she was sorry she assumed I went through her phone and then went through mine.

So, like I said. She made me into the bad guy. JUST LIKE I SAID IT WOULD HAPPEN. And you know what? I think that when i confronted her, she just made up the lie of someone or 'something' going through her phone to deflect blame.


WTF is going on in my house?