I am so sorry you find yourself here. I read your old thread and must say all in all I think you are doing a hell of job.
Look man, at this time I think you need to limit all conversation with your W to the L's. Based on your post you seem to still think that something you do will make your W realize the you love her. Realize that you have changed. Realized that she is making a mistake. Nothing and I repeat nothing you do can do this. You will need luck, time and some serious DBing to GET THRU THIS. Notice I said get through this not restore your M.
The restoration of the M is really her decision right now. She really does control HER own destiny. You my friend control YOURS.
The hardest thing to do right now is to totally let go and really do what it is THAT YOU and ONLY YOU want to do.
So...do YOU want her to live in the house for 2 years? If so, are you doing this out of fear? Are you doing this thinking that maybe she will snap out of it? Ask yourself the hard question...what the F do you really want for YOU.
In terms of cash, I would not give her a dime. I would not commit to anything. I would follow one basic principal - DO WHAT IS RIGHT. No more NO less. Just do what is right.
Not what the L's say...what is right. Not what she says...do what is right.
BTW - what does your D want? Have you considered that maybe you want the shared custody as a form of punishing her for HER choices? Seriously, if your D wants to be with her mom are you really going to stop it. IMO...this sounds like you have not let your W completely go and this my friend must be done...for you to ever have any chance of Peace.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
