my ic said to me .. 'it wasn't your fault. don't blame yourself for what happened. you are not at fault here.'
so after hearing it 2 or 3 times, i finally asked my ic .. why do you say it's not my fault? (because i know that it takes two to make or break a marriage. it's not always one sided). i was also testing her to see if she was listening to me and whether she could detect anything that perhaps i did wrong in my marriage.
so she says "well, he wanted it out. usually one party wants out and the other person doesn't have a choice. so you didn't choose the outcome".
i thought that was a cop out. and i thought "you really have no idea what you're talking about, do you?"
