Through The Looking Glass

[pearlharbr]

I agree with Burt. I definitely think your H was responding to your actions whether he admits it or not.

As for the new guy, yes, you do need to DB him too in a way. Don't get all clingy with any man! Try to approach dating as a casting director auditioning leading men. They have to impress you and be the right fit. You wouldn't just cast the first actor who read for you, right? You should read Why Men Marry Bitches, it's an awesome book and it's very complementary to the DB practices.