I never said I thought you were an aggressive hussy (if you were directing that at me). I simply said I think you have a more modern outlook on dating than I do. You did say that you dated during most of your 20's. Well, I was married for most of my 20's and the first half of my thirties so obviously you have more experience with dating than I do.
Only you can decide what is best for you. I do think these are VERY interesting and enlightening conversations and isn't that the point? To learn from each other, be challenged by the views and ideals of others and somehow navigate through the post divorce exploratory period with support?
To me, I would think HOLY CRAP who needs all this thought like you posted above (how you approach a R or getting to know you period). But you know what? Who cares if that is what you feel you like!
I do think you are an aggressive woman when it comes to men and I don't think there is a thing wrong with that! In fact, I am going to guess MOST men would find it kinda hot! Obviously you know what you want and you have a clear plan on how to get it and as a woman I admire that. I bet you would think I am aggressive in other areas that seem a bit foreign to you. That is sort of the amazing nature of women - we can learn and challenge each other.
I ask many questions because I am curious and quite frankly VERY unsure about men at this point. I don't ask to condemn you choices or ideals. Quite the contrary... I ask because your outlook is very different than mine so why not learn from it.
You and I agree on very little (clearly, lol!) but I do think you are a nice person who always tries to see the absolute best in people. And those are amazing qualities to have and ones you should celebrate daily! I also think your friend 'zoobrew' is using you and since you TOLD him all you wanted was a fling he is taking advantage of that. I personally think you deserve MUCH better given the dedication you seem to have to a future R.
