New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

I find it interesting that she hasn't gone back to her "I'm filing for D any day now" routine. Could be positive.

Mostly I'm just trying to figure out what specifically her hang-up is. I know she said trusting you. Trusting that you have changed for the better I'm assuming. I'm curious what it would take for her to start trusting you again.

Trust is built on risks. You have to be a little vulnerable with someone, to ask them for help, to rely on them for something and then have them come through for you. If you are never vulnerable with someone you never build a stronger R and build trust. On the flip side, if you are forced to rely on someone, you build a very strong R very quickly - you see it in the military very often (course, it's also good for finding out who the scammers are LOL).

Maybe you should just ask her what things would help rebuild her trust.

I kind of suspect that she doesn't really know.

But, on the other hand, you taking the kids for an extended period away from her was definitely an act of trust. And you of course took care of the kids and had a blast. And I'm sure she'll be happy that you remembered the medication schedule, which in her mind probably is a great example of responsibility and trustworthiness.

I definitely see all of that as positive.

Give it time. See what happens in the next couple weeks.

Keep focusing on the kids. Try and keep building the friendly R with her when you can. And give it time.

Be prepared in case she withdraws for a little bit. Also be prepared that she may soften. It's always hard to tell.

But you have as long as you are willing to wait.