I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

So there's this poster named Timeheals. He addresses me as "she" instead of saying "Newmama, I don't like how you are doing all of the...etc." He means well although sometimes I get a little defensive because she doesn't think Timeheals trusts her ability to handle life. LOL! Isn't it ANNOYING to be talked about? Please address me directly

Yeah, I don't like it that she's doing all of the pursuing here either. More importantly, why isn't he at least being decisive and doing things like setting the times?

See the above post to CG. If I were into something more, then I would be annoyed as well. Perhaps this guy is a major conflict avoider or "he's just not that into me." Which is better than the opposite because I would be hurting him or pushing him away.

Her interest is evident. She's also controlling the whole thing (from what I can see) however.

haha! I AM interested. But I am aware of that...I am using my brain instead of my heart.

What is it they say about rebounds that has me worried for her? That people often use them to act out unresolved issues of their last relationship (e.g. If I had only tried this...).

This WILL be something I will be doing in my next serious relationship.I don't see why that is wrong, though.

At the moment, I promise I am experimenting at best with the dating part. I mean it is different...WAY different than the relationship part. I have broken almost all the rules EXCEPT not pursuing heavily...which has worked for me in the past but I have never gone 2 weeks in between "dates" before. Well, yes I have, when I was dating a few guys at once (years ago).