I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Ok I am going to reply to one post each (And you guys really are awesome online friends- thanks for being there!)

Now that you know he didn't talk with his exGF last week and he still didn't call you what do you think? Do you find it odd that each time the two of you talk or spend time together it is initiated by you? Maybe I am REALLY far out of the dating/fling loop (probably so, lol!) but why do you keep making more effort while he sits back and lets you? I am really just curious?!

So, what I honestly think is that this man was intending to take a break, go with the flow, and went out with me on a whim.

I think he is just having fun and has mentioned several times about the last time he was dating, the women wanted to get serious really fast. I think because I am no pressure, and into a fling thing, he is not doing any work.

Also, I think that he isn't clear headed right now. Lots of fly by the seat of his pants stuff happening here.

And, also, perhaps because I have mentioned several times that I am not looking for a boyfriend, he is letting me "drive" and pursue.

And, the women in the past have all come on strong to him...so he HASN'T had to do much work!

He has initiated some stuff, like after we went out the first time, he texted me to ask me if I wanted to go out again.

After we talked, I texted him and then he waited 4 days before texting me to talk.

Then, after I texted him after the 2nd date, he texted me a week later, then he called me on his own a few days later. And he initiated contact the morning after. SO it isn't entirely all me!

As for me making the effort...I don't know!!! I will reply to some others now.