Half Way There

[BeingMe]

He always says "I'm ready and willing to sit down and work out a settlement before this ends up in front of a judge."

Of course this is what he wants --- the 'ready and willing' implies that you are the one that left, and he is willing to allow you to have a no fuss divorce. He must truly think you are completely out of your mind when it is he that is off the track. Weird.

I would tell him "no, you cannot pick up the papers because they are not here. Once again, H, it is at the lawyers' office. Do you have a problem with your memory?" He just keeps on hacking away at this, doesn't he?! He probably thinks that if he carries on and on, you will get tired and just say 'yes'. Like a child, "pleeeeeze mommy, can I have some candy, pleeeeeze, pleeeeeze, pleeeeeeze, pleeeeeze, can I have some candy, pleeeeze, pleeeeeze, ad nauseum ....." I don't know if you were like this with your children, but if they carried on, I would put them in a time-out in a room where I can't hear their constant whining. And only let them out if they were going to stop asking for stuff I wasn't going to give them, and anyway, "I had said NO, and that's not going to change." The more they nag, the less chance they have of having any kind of treat.

Perhaps, this is how you should treat your H. The more he whines about the papers, the more you distance yourself.

Just a thought.


Oh, and perhaps you shouldn't be there when he comes around for the non-existent papers?