I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

I am putting this whole text exchange up verbatim. Again, I really really don't think he is a scumbag. But I am definitely going to communicate directly with him on the phone later- no more stupid guessing and crap. I will still be smart, don't you worry.

He replied "Thanks for the consideration. My plate is pretty full this week with the kids and this looming exG thing. Other than that been enjoying the hot weather. How about you?"

(what????he didn't talk to her LAST week??? I thought I heard him tell me that!)

So I reply "Well, S has been sick but is better. Can you talk later tonight?"

him:"sure"

(now, I am trying to be more direct so that I am not coming across as wanting "TO TALK")

me:"Great! is after 9 all right with you? btw, by "chat" I mean having a pleasurable conversation...er..that's not what I meant...see why the phone is good?;) "

him:"after 9 is great. kids down between 9-9:30"

me:"ok then I will call you after 9:30! Stay cool today :-)"

him: "and stay thirsty my friend(s):

me:"lol! aren't you clever-no, make that "the most interesting man in the world!" but you KNOW I am parched...;)

him:lol too funny!

sigh.....I am going to tell him that I swear he said he was talking to her last week...and that is why I didn't call him because I kind of thought he would call me to let me know what happened...but I didn't want to ask in case it was gruesome or in case I would be disturbing their "make up" sessions.

Something like that.