Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Then why is she DISRESPECTING YOU by playing these games?

Just like a cat plays with a mouse. Is she getting off on this POWER and CONTROL? Why give her that? Why make it her choice? The ONLY situations I've seen work where the WAS comes back and SINCERELY wants to try to make a M work is when the LBS becomes the WAS. The sooner YOU let her SEE that the SOONER you MIGHT be able to save your M.

I personally dont believe she is READY to do the WORK that it will take to FULLY COMMIT. I unfortunately think she will have to lose YOU first to really GET IT.

PMA

I agree fully. She's not getting off on this power/control stuggle, but I'm sure it's nice to be in control.

I'm waiting until after MC Wednesday to make any other changes. What I've been doing so far has been working. She's coming more to me, even if she is playing games or whatever, and I've been the rock - staying steady.

I suspect this next MC session will be the one where the MC asks her to commit to 6 months of this marriage 100%. At least, that's what she told me on the phone. She'll be in the room individually with her, and I'll admit, for a pro-marriage MC, she's pretty damn good and convincing. She doesn't take "sides" except the side to make a marriage work at all costs.

If W comes out of MC no different 2 days from now, it's time to drop the rope and GAL. That's my plan.

As far as LOSING ME, she's afraid of that already. She's going through my stuff. I've told her in the past post-bomb that I was thinking about going outside our marriage for our needs. I said this in MC. She freaked out when I had friends over when she was out of town. She's not 100% afraid to lose me because I haven't dropped the rope, but the fear is there.