Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

The real issue is why won't you enforce the boundary of transparency? Waiting for the MC makes you look weak as well. Your W is playing you. Your head is in the sand.

You get it when you respond to other DBers. Lot at your sitch like you are looking into a fishbowl. What do you see?

One of her biggest issues with me is CONTROL and manipulation of her. She hates that. She spells that out in her letter to the MC. She feels in her heart that me going through her "stuff" is controlling, and father like. I could spin that situation or phrase it a thousand different ways to try to make her see it's not about me, it's about us, but she won't see it. So, I don't control that part - I allow her to give it up on her terms, after MC.

I'm thinking in terms of a marathon, not a sprint to get what I want. If she's agreed to it after speaking to the MC, I'm OK with that.

And if I look at this like a fishbowl, I see the same as you.