I'm still not clear on this. Just for the record. The 3 previous affairs. Did she sleep with the other guys or were they emotional?
Never physical.
EA #1 - November 2006. Over inet/phone. OM 1000 miles away. Went on for about a month. Worst one of the 3. Escalated to her sending pics of her to OM, saying ILY to him.
EA#2 - April 2010. Met up with OM 4 times total. Talked on phone/chat daily. Never PA. She speaks as if he was a really good friend who showed her attention (he's a predator) and she never even as much touched him in any way. In her words, "A really good friend at just the wrong time."
EA#3 - April 2010. Phone/Inet only. OM lives in Canada. She was just seeking attention. Met on chatroullete.
EA#4-??? - April 2010. She mentioned that she talked to alot of people on chatroulette / chatprograms. Don't know or care how many.
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----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Sounds like a woman can get a lot of attention there.
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She mentioned that she talked to alot of people on chatroulette / chatprograms. Don't know or care how many.
Don't be an ostrich.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Came home for lunch, forgot my phone at home. Ate there with W and S4. Left to run some errands, was sitting down and noticed that someone has been through my phone's Instant Messaging, Call Logs, and Picture Album. I know for a fact those things have been opened (last 3 opened) and I never open two of them.
So, my W went through my phone.
I'm not mind reading, but I suspect it was because of the way I acted last night when I left all sudden like after she "rejected" me for sex when I wasn't pursuing. That, and I left my phone easily accessible for her for hours today.
So I'm in a predicament. I have two options. Which do I puruse?
1) Forget about it. Move on. 2) Ask her about it, and why. Tell her that if she wants to continue to go through my phone, she'll need to be transparent with all her passwords, FB, cell, etc. Something that she says when I look into she feels "violated". Well, W, you just did the same to me.
Which?
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Definitely sounds hypocritical. So call her on it. Remember men have BOUNDARIES. You are fighting for RESPECT right now.
I agree that it's hypocritical. We talked about transparency, and she agreed to everything except FB, pwd, until after MC on Wednesday. Well, does that give her the right to go through my phone?
I just know if I confront her on this, she's going to try to twist and turn it on me to make me be the bad guy.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I'm not mind reading, but I suspect it was because of the way I acted last night when I left all sudden like after she "rejected" me for sex when I wasn't pursuing. That, and I left my phone easily accessible for her for hours today.
Cheater's Mentality.
She likes to cheat so she suspects you are cheating also. Remember the hair band incident?
The whole rejection thing is curious. Come watch me strip and put on a show for you, but dont expect any sex. Come get real close and wax me, but dont touch. Repect my boundaries, But I do like talking with other boys, so I won't respect yours. I'm the one thats doing the cheatin' but you are the one who has to suffer and change for my liking. Something doesnt add up.
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- She says, "I know you are a good man. I just don't know if you're the right man for me."
That's why I was asking about the history. If she is trully committed then she should be doing everything to gain back your trust. If she is still in CONTROL and has the POWER then it will be on her terms. That is why you GAL and create mystery so she will continue to CHASE YOU not the other way around.
I agree that it's hypocritical. We talked about transparency, and she agreed to everything except FB, pwd, until after MC on Wednesday. Well, does that give her the right to go through my phone? I just know if I confront her on this, she's going to try to twist and turn it on me to make me be the bad guy.
Because she can go thru your phone and you can't go thru hers? You allowed it.
You leaving your phone out as bait then whining about it is not manly. You waxing your wife is not manly especially when you are cut off.
The real issue is why won't you enforce the boundary of transparency? Waiting for the MC makes you look weak as well. Your W is playing you. Your head is in the sand.
You get it when you respond to other DBers. Lot at your sitch like you are looking into a fishbowl. What do you see?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
