I think this is your biggest problem is that you present these boundaries and he tries to argue with you...
Just tell them you need this and invite him to cooperate. If he refuses you tell him "OK" and you start packing his things and show him the door.
He isn't taking your boundaries seriously because YOU don't.
You have made your boundaries clear but he keeps arguing about them and humming and hawing and you get more upset...
Just show him you mean business so he takes you SERIOUSLY..
Sorry, but i don't buy a word he's saying to you... he's a good talker, but what he's DOING is saying something much louder and much more offensive.
Put a list of boundaries up here so we can help you make them clear...
But you need to be prepared to back these up if he crosses them...
Did you know FaceBook is THE NUMBER ONE software product used to conduct affairs today on the internet?
If you want my advice
a. All accounts, usernames, and passwords are turned over to you - no argument b. He closes his facebook account - no argument c. He starts reading you assign to him daily - 25 pp a day - no argument
etc
If he refuses this stuff, go out, get some boxes and start packing his things... do NOT argue with him - ACT to show him you are serious...
This is the thing is that TALK is CHEAP... if he thinks all you will do is nag him when he crosses a boundary he's going to keep doing it... seriosly...
Violation of Boundary -> Panic Attack -> Promise to never do it again -> ^^^ |
That cycle never ENDS
he is gonna keep doing it and doing it until you break the cycle and do something to show him you are serious
You may want to add a boundary about his buddy too
a. Assert yourself with friends who encourage you to exit the marriage - ask them to STOP the negativity or LEAVE
You CAN make that a boundary.. If he says no... start packing him up
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