Like to here more thoughts on what is attractive. I think the men here would like to her from the women and vice-versa.
Great post Coach - thanks for starting this. One item I find very attractive in my H is some perceptiveness. Not to the point where I expect him to read my mind. More his proactiveness to learn what helps me open up and share what's on my mind.
For example, there have been many times where I've really, really need to say something difficult to my H but I'm scared to - for whatever reason - scared he'll take offense, scared he'll dismiss my concern. So usually, I just bottled it up because I just didn't know how to start. Once though, my H looked at me and said: 'You've got that look on your face again; the one you get when you want to say something but can't - it's ok, talk to me.' That did it. The tears came, and then I finally blurted it out. The other thing he did that helped was simply to touch me, just gently on the arm or shoulder - and for just a moment. Same reaction in me. Tears then blurt.
It was like my H made a concerted effort on his own, to get to know what made me 'tick'. It made me feel very special, connected and accepted, and I therefore found it very attractive in him.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
