Handing over almost $20,000 (borrowed) to my attorney for my retainer, spending a good chunk of that meeting with "my team" @ $1,000 an hour, finding out that it's still up to me to get everything together for my response to his 51 pg motion.
Wow!!! $20 grand, $1000.00 an hour and you do all the work??? That is outrageous, maybe you need a new "team" because this team seems to have an "I" in it and that I is just you.
Originally Posted By: Generosity
All of this happened when I went into no contact. No seeing, emailing, calling for any reason...all goes thru a 3rd party, if it needs to be addressed at all. Most of what he wants is due to that change. He wants the court to order that he gets to coming here for drop-offs, that I talk to him personally to discuss schedules, and even that we have birthday parties for S7 planned & held together.
I'm not backing down & going back to the way it was.
I don't blame you one bit. You have no obligation to talk to him personally and it's just crazy to think a divorce decree would mandate planning and holding a joint birthday party - you are no longer a couple do primarily to his failings and he needs to accept that and move on himself.
Originally Posted By: Generosity
Big mistakes I made;
-Taking H up on his 1st offer @ reconcilation immediately, letting him know I was still in his back pocket, without his ending the A first.
-Not letting him go free soon enough, and moving on with my life.
-Letting the constant contact continue.
Instead of "big mistakes" I would call these "common mistakes" that a lot of us LBS's have made because we initially focused on doing whatever we though we could do to save the marriage regardless of whether they were right for us or not. I hope you are feeling better!
