i contemplated having a session with the same ic as my h and give it to her in person.
i know the sessions are supposed to be confidential .. but i found out the name of the ic via my own intel and i so want to give her a piece of my mind.
i felt he went in looking for validation for a d - cuz y'know, the longer he stayed married to me, he was going to die. the stress of living with me was going to give him a heart attack. a good therapist should know that what they are hearing is only one side of the story. there are three sides to a story. his, hers, and the truth.
you should never give advice based on one sided stories. telling him to pack a bag in his car sends a very bad message. what if the wife found out and accused him of infidelity and it created a bigger problem?
i just think that was the worst thing a therapist could advise a patient. it made me feel like i was being painted as an abuser .. when i felt that i was being abused in the relationship. he created an uncomfortable environment for me .. he verbally attacked me .. and the emotional abuse.
