I know you have feelings for this man guy and that is very understandable. However like most WAS's he's just another manipulative pr!ck. He's using your feelings and this emotional bullsh!t talk to control you. He has his plans all laid out and he's checking things off as he goes. It's horrible that they do this crap.
You don't need someone like him in your life. Even if I'm to believe all the BS he's telling you (which I don't for a sec) are you telling me that someone like him could be trusted that he's divorcing you so you can be a happy couple together? I don't think even Hollywood could come up with this brilliant plot: "I love you darling, let's get a divorce!" WHAT???
I wouldn't discuss ANYTHING with him, keep your cards close to your chest. Please meet with your L to come up with a strategy and let him handle this matter *legally* not emotionally. Decline his invitations, get your own life. He's no longer entitled to see your emotions or hear how you feel about anything- you're a brick wall from now on. He will be upset because he's controlling and you're taking the control back from him but in time he'll come to respect and understand the boundaries you'll set up...starting now.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again