Went to bed last night thinking that W would have changed her mind about MC. Got up early since I had to go to the hospital for my colonoscopy, and when I came out and got dressed, saw that she had been looking up counselors on her company's medical insurance site! I know it's a small thing, but still. Good little baby steps on her part.
When I was getting prepped for my procedure, I handed her my wedding band and said, "take really good care of this." She looked me straight in the eyes and smiled. She's been in a really good mood this morning, very supportive and talkative.
Oh, and my colonoscopy came back perfect. No cancer, no polyps, nothing. So today has been a damn fine day.
Great news all around. I'll wish the best for you. IMO - forcing the move issue was an eye opener. Now you just need to be careful and cautious and take care of you so that if she backslides you can handle it.
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At some point she is going to tempt you with sex, just like my W. Be prepared for it. If you take this giant leap for mankind and try to have sex with her, it could be too soon, even if she seems willing or tempting. Baby steps, bro.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Nah, sex isn't on the horizon yet. Which is fine for now, though I might turn into a monk/priest while waiting. She's always been LD except the first month we were dating, but right now isn't the right time.
But that would be a big 180 for her, and I don't think she'd be trying to tempt me or control me. She's really the type who needs a strong emotional connection before the physical stuff, and that's what we've been building back up the last week or two.
But that would be a big 180 for her, and I don't think she'd be trying to tempt me or control me. She's really the type who needs a strong emotional connection before the physical stuff, and that's what we've been building back up the last week or two.
Right. And at some point, that emotional connection is going to fill up her bucket, and she's going to become flirty again. It may be sooner than you think. She's already starting holding your hand again. That's a big step for her.
All I'm saying is be prepared.
The comment about becoming a priest/nun... yup. But, you learn to subdue that part of yourself in the interim to save your marriage. I went from ML on average 6 times a month to nothing for three months. I've always been HD, she is LD. Same situation. You learn.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Made an apt to meet with our MC on Monday, the 23rd. Seems so far away. W said that she's scared she's going to let me down. Sounds like she's doing it for me, and not herself. Our MC is pretty sharp, so I think he'll have a good handle on things.
Went to bed last night thinking that W would have changed her mind about MC. Got up early since I had to go to the hospital for my colonoscopy, and when I came out and got dressed, saw that she had been looking up counselors on her company's medical insurance site! I know it's a small thing, but still. Good little baby steps on her part.
When I was getting prepped for my procedure, I handed her my wedding band and said, "take really good care of this." She looked me straight in the eyes and smiled. She's been in a really good mood this morning, very supportive and talkative.
Oh, and my colonoscopy came back perfect. No cancer, no polyps, nothing. So today has been a damn fine day.
