Today is a new day which calls for actual implementation of action steps. I looked over in your thread for some new insights on W's state of mind. Saw the ILYBNILWY excerpts and here is what I think are her main LL. It seems that PT and WOA are her two main LL. Since she is with OM, obviously can't do PT. However, you can sprinkle WOA to her on neutral basis when you do interact with her. Use them sparingly!
My suggestion is to do some 180s that can be easily done and only FOR you. I cannot emphasize this enough to DBers. Why not pick u a new hobby that you've always wanted to do but keep putting off because of "renos, D, new job..blah blah." Another area is changing things up a bit...one would be getting a new pair of shoes, shirt, or a clothing item that will make W sit up and notice. Lay off on the cologne chit as it is too personal and could fall under the category of pursuing W!
Dude...why don't you write down some doable list of goals here for the week and focus on them. For goodness sake, smile when you interact with W! Who wants to be around a downer?!! Let the OM be the downer and nagging one. You'll come out of this as a winner.
Who wants to be around a downer?!! Let the OM be the downer and nagging one. You'll come out of this as a winner.
