Steve, LOL, I am known for my imagination. I usually listen to everyone's advice and do what I want anyway...but doesn't everybody?
PH, You sound like I am going off to combat. I did go to church for the second week in a row after not going for 22 years. If God is with me he will be in the nose bleed seats at the Cardinals game in St Louis this weekend (and he would have stopped the Cubs two wins this past week)...At least the nose bleed seats are in the shade.
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
If God is with me he will be in the nose bleed seats at the Cardinals game in St Louis this weekend (and he would have stopped the Cubs two wins this past week)...At least the nose bleed seats are in the shade.
WTF, Chuck? I thought I was invited the next time your W didn't want the tickets? How can we sweep the Reds and then get kicked so bad by the lowly Cubbies? IDU!!!
The atmosphere is always great at Cards Cubs games. Hope you had a great time!
yes we still live together and sleep in the same bed.
Wondering what the pros take is on the same bed. When I first heard from H's lawyer, I was relieved we were living in sep bedrooms as I was so hurt and didn't even want him in the house, much less the bedroom. After I read DR, I realized it was better that he was still around so that I could put my best foot forward on a regular basis and he could see me being happy instead of the pool of tears I had been.
chuck - how can you stand it? are you doing it to keep up appearances for the kids? does the subject ever come up? I can only imagine how difficult that must be for you. I've read other stories here where people are doing the same thing. It just seems so hard.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
IDU, The game I'm going to is still to come on the 22nd. IDU how Cubs won either.
LRT, I thought about the DB is more visible with them still around, but it's not my choice that they she is still in the house.
How can I stand it? She is gone most of the time. Works long hours and I stay at home. I've worked 20 years and many 12 hour shifts in the military. It's darn nice to be able to lay out on the back patio for 2 hours.
So I only see her for 40 minutes in the morning and 2 hours at night. That's easily tolerable and she is usually in another part of the house and I am usually with the kids. On weekends I usually take the kids and do something on Sat. The last Saturday we drove 90 miles to Hannibal, Mo and visited the Mark Twain Cave. The kids loved it! The Sun I took them to church, out to eat, and swimming. Then I come home and she plays with them for 2 hours (usually tolerates one hour then plays her guitar for the other) while I do my own thing on our 20 acres.
No, not keeping up appearances. Lawyer's told us both not to move out or it may hurt our case. Subject never comes up. She wants to buy a condo but I have control of 90% of the money. I try not to think about it and that makes it a little easier to deal with it. Just keep busy is what I tell myself.
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Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
W is doing pretty god a DBing me whether she knows it or not. Says she has a late appt on Tues nite and I will have to watch the kids. I know it's the mandatory "what's best for the child" class we have to attend for the divorce. Mine is on a different day. I like the way she was vague about it like I would have been.
Me 44, W 39, S 6, D 6, M 21 Bomb June 18, 2010 I filed D July 20, 2010 W filed counter suit Aug 2 Rings came off Aug 5, 2010
My W did the same thing, but it is getting to her. I just keeping do what I have to do. It will be who's resolve is stronger, and I believe mine is at the moment. I will not let it get to me. I have to fight I have certainty in my life. You have to do the same for you.
Don't let it get to you. It is all part of the process and what happens in a M and D.
Let your resolve in the R be the winning one.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097
I guess you are good at keeping calm and not picking fights. I just picked another fight with him this AM. Even though he is often not around and I am usually in an empty house with my D he still waltzes in at 6-7am and goes to sleep so it is so infuriating.
I know i should just leave him alone but sometimes I just can't. I say something mean and then he does and then before I know it i am yelling again.
You are obviously very strong and doing all the right things. I am a terrible DB'r
M=42 H=51 Common-law 6yr Children: 11yr old daughter (previous marrIage) 6yr old son Bomb dropped January 2013
I thought I was invited the next time your W didn't want the tickets? How can we sweep the Reds and then get kicked so bad by the lowly Cubbies? IDU!!!