Could use some support

[M-Jo]

W and I are separated and have been for about 3 months. She left suddenly saying she was unhappy. She said I was a good husband and this was all about her and her feelings and she knew she was being selfish. She has had an affair in the past (and still may be, not sure).

I don't want a D, but probably should. I always promised myself I would do whatever I could to not get one. It just seems pointless to want what I had before - a wife that cheated on me, suddenly left me twice, and acts so selfishly. She never communicated that she was unhappy until she was walking out of the door. That is not what M is to me, but I still don't want a D. It seems especially pointless since I am young and we don't have any children.

I have gone about two weeks without communicating. I am starting to realize sometimes the best you can do is nothing, but it is hard. How has letting them go worked for others here? All I really want at this point is to know I have done everything I could and will not have any regrets. The last few times we spent time together it was enjoyable for both of us so that makes it harder, but at the same time I know I don't want what we had before and I cannot change her mind or make her want to change her ways.