Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[MM78]

I know I need to approach him with a boundary about OW. He did go to see her and I HAD set a boundary that if he did he would need to find somewhere else to live when he returned. However perhaps not pursuing him all weekend (no texts or calls from me at all) make him wake up and want to work on things. But he still thinks they can be casual text friends. I need him to know I cannot work on the marriage with her in the picture and he will need to find a new place to live by Sept 30 if he cannot cut off contact with her.

Off to reread the boundary thread again...

Input is greatly welcome. I still feel like he's hanging on to this by a thread, I mean he says he wants to work on it, but there isn't tons of emotion or readiness yet. I know he is still depressed so I don't want to hash it out and work on talking through the marriage now or anything - I think we should both focus on ourselves, but OW needs to go.