DU - you are a sweetheart, thank you so much for the kind words. I'm amazed at the strength that I'm starting to see in you....you are sounding stronger and more positive and I too will pray for the very best for you.
I also have been off the DB boards for a while...I think that it shows that we are coping better...and that's a good thing. Glad to hear that you are keeping busy....and don't worry about men that see your independence as negative...that's not the kind of man I would want anyway...if I ever decide to date again LOL.
Take care and pop in once in a while to give us an update....I know that you'll be OK...I can see your strength coming through
(((hugs)))
Last edited by Mila; 08/06/1012:32 AM.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Hi everyone. It has been one crazy week at work and since I have not updated my DB friends, I wanted to provide one.
Work has really been exceptionally busy. I work in Government (after leaving 16 years in private sector), and had to prepare for an IT briefing with the powers on capital hill. So my boss was really stressing me and herself out, but we made it through. It appears that I can deal with stress when I am TOTALLY focused on ME.
My H (still overseas) has been reaching out a lot - emails, phone calls, and Skype. I have not always been available and now he is wondering if I am avoiding him. I sent a care package late last month for him and his fellow soldiers. He thanked me through email and continues to wonder why I don't answer when he calls me or respond to his email messages when he sends on.e. (In his messages, he is using those cuddly titles to describe me when things we really good in our marriage - "honey", "babe", "sweetie") We talked yesterday via Skype. He asked if I needed anything and about me, the house, my health, work, and I needed money. I said, with a very enthusiatic attitude, I am doing great (and I am). He smiled, but I have to tell you that he looked so sad and alone. I am not pitying him, but it was something I noticed. We did not speak about our relationship, just about other things and the conversation was good.
I made earlier arrangements to meet up with friends in Ocean City MD and had to cut our conversation short and said goodbye. He seemed like he was surprised. I got a message later last night before heading out to dinner from him telling me to "behave and enjoy yourself." I just returned home from my excursion to Ocean City, MD and received another message from him saying this: "I'm still at work babe. Hope you had fun last night - and weren't too naughty."
Interesting or not? I am really trying NOT to read into any of this, but I still love this man, but I have to detach emotionally, which I think have becoming better at since I am able to have a conversation with him without breaking down or ruining a much deserved evening out. I hope you are all having a great Sunday!
((((HUGS))))
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Thank you Lance. When I first got to DB, I was an absolute mess! I am more informed and feel better about myself than ever.
BTW, he Skype'd me after I posted and he seeamed (again) like he did not want the conversation to end. He kept looking at me, I thought he wanted to say something more. He then waved at me and said that me he missed me very much and that I am and continue to be a good wife. He looked so sad. what is going on?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Sounds good. Just keep doin' what your doin' cuz it's obviously working for you. By the way, I'm just a dumb old girl from Arkansas, but WTH is a SKYPE?
It is a way of talking on the phone over the internet. Complete with pictures(video) if you have a camera. It is pretty cool. And free if you are doing skype to skype. Try googling it.
Email from Husband this morning: "I didn't sleep well again. Thinking about us. I haven't lost you yet, have I? I'm reconsiderring...."
What do I say?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
