Ok, she's pulling a "Wiggle" it in your face routine. It's a power play.
It's a test. Everything is a FREAKING Test! I hate to say it, but you failed. You should of held your composure...tbh you shouldn't have even offered to get the wax or help.
You need Robx right now. His post had something about painting his W's toenails and other sexual stuff in it and Sandi2 was pretty much on the money about it being a test. You need an expert now on how to proceed. I'm nowhere near this experience yet. Hate to say it, but sex is my weakness too. I just don't want you or anyone settling for "scraps".
If it's normal behavior on how you acted when you were controlled sexually to throw a tantrum, she hooked you easily. Be cautious from here on.
Not being a jerk, but WOW! It's amazing how our Wives will test us.