Don't YOU be the one to tell him no...let the LAWYER tell him no...this way you can deflect some of the agression although he will still have a hissy-fit and insist that you can handle this not only without a judge but without a lawyer too!
That is when you tell him that you want to be "fair" and so as not to let your emotions cloud your judgement you feel it is best to rely on professional advice as to what is fair or not...
Deflect, deflect, deflect...this will save your sanity and drive OW absoluty more batty then she all ready is and H along with her...although this is not the motive, just a nice little side benefit of protecting yourself.
